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Monthly Archives: May 2010
Unconscious Identifications
This is part II of “My Quirky Trans Narrative”. One hears a lot about trans men who “always knew” they were male, and who feel that they have the “wrong body”, or that their bodies “betrayed” them. The concepts of … Continue reading
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Trans Empowerment I: My Quirky Trans Narrative
For a long while, I felt like I had to accumulate “proof” before I could claim to be transgender and male. So I would compile lists, in my head or in this blog, of all the feelings, identifications, and experiences … Continue reading
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Red Tremmel on “Being a Mystery”
I ran across this video interview today. I’ve been thinking lately that it’s more useful to ask “How?” than “Why?” To move away from the effort to construct a legible narrative about being transgender whose purpose is to justify how … Continue reading
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I’m Becoming Butch!
I don’t mean “butch” as in butch lesbian. I’m using “butch” here the way gay men use it — to describe a manly, masculine man, not an effeminate or queeny fag. But it’s still a crisis. Ever since I started … Continue reading
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The Trans Train
As I feared, taking male pronouns feels like the first big jump abroad a fast moving trans train. Once you’re on this train, it becomes increasingly difficult to take the leisure to sort out exactly how you feel about this … Continue reading
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Against the Freezing of the Category “Lesbian”
Jack called me out in a comment recently for my tendency to associate butch with female, lesbian, and “she”, pointing out that some butches do identify as trans and some, in addition, take male pronouns. In another context, a … Continue reading
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Blog Name Change: From Female Faggotry to Transfaggotry, or Why I’m No Longer Female
I began this blog because I wanted to work through the seeming impossibility of being female, identifying as a faggot, and wanting to have gay sex with gay men. I didn’t know if I was trans or if I wanted … Continue reading
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Pronoun Change Anxieties
A few days ago, I started telling people that I am using male pronouns. Being a very logical person, I made the decision swiftly and abruptly. Basically, I admitted to myself that, yes, I was incontrovertibly trans, I reasoned that … Continue reading
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